Protect Your Head
June 30, 2012 Leave a comment
The Urban Dictionary defines “naysayer” as: One who frequently engages in excessive complaining, negative banter and/or a genuinely poor and downbeat attitude.
My oldest daughter, Jordan was in preschool when it hit me. I volunteered with classes and knew who the trouble makers were. I suddenly knew what my parents meant when they said “you need to mind your company”. It was apparent that I needed to be aware of who my daughter was hanging out with, for obvious reasons. It wasn’t long before realizing that the protection I wanted for my children was void in my own life.
After analyzing, I awoke to find that some of the people in my inner circle were people that I would never want my children to hang around with, so why was I allowing them in my circle? I had to make some tough decisions and distance myself from some “friends”, clients and even family.
I am constantly scanning my surroundings and am being vigilant in controlling what enters my head. As an example, in light of this year’s elections, we have suspended our television service. I don’t watch much TV; however I choose to not let that crap enter my family’s environment.
Many times, I cannot control what happens around or to me, but I can choose to whom and what I give my precious time to. It has taken me way too long to realize that I am in control of my life and my destiny and everything in my life are the result of the choices I have made.
Living a purpose-driven life is not easy. I must make decisions every day to protect myself and my family and am not always successful. Sometimes, I even have to protect me from myself! Naysayers are everywhere and the more aware I become, it seems the more I am under attack.
People are either faucets or they are drains. They either lift me up or tear me down. Sometimes it takes a while to realize the truth, but once I do, I must take action. I strive to lift those up around me, learn from my mistakes and never let the naysayers enter my circle.
When they say, “it can’t be done”, I hear, “I didn’t want it bad enough to get it done”. I say, go find someone who has done it and learn. I say that passion with a goal can overcome ANY hurdle and stepping over, around or through a naysayer is a task that gives me pleasure.
If these influences exist in your life, it is because you allow it. Make the choice to shed negativity in your life and free your soul.
This is not to say that debate is not encouraged. Healthy debate is the catalyst of many great ideas. Be aware and know the difference.
MY world is and always will be a “life sucker”-free zone. Hopefully yours is, too!